Dear Mik and Mike: I read the letter about the white woman and African guy who got her pregnant. I have the opposite problem. I went to Asia and now have a much younger Asian girlfriend. She loves me dearly and I do not have to send her money like so many other men seem to do, but I have a problem with communication. Sometimes we just stare at each other on Skype and no one says anything, then I get frustrated. What can I do?
I have a suggestion for you, although I’m not sure it’s great advice since you don’t really seem to have a real relationship. I have a friend who lives in the US, who has a girlfriend in China. Neither one speaks the other’s language, so they use hand puppets and stuffed animals to act out stories and various sex acts while on Skype. It seems to work quite well for them since I hear a lot of laughing and see her smiling all the time. This might work for you in the short term, but it does sound like you don’t have much going on in your real life. I’d focus on the women in your own country, or make an effort to learn Chinese and make it real. As you have pointed out, there is a huge age difference and you’re not getting any younger.
If you truly have the opposite problem, I’d be impressed. It’s tough for men to get pregnant. Seriously though, you both sound as though you are feeling pretty hopeless about the situation. I don’t think it’s a communication problem, rather a continent problem—how far away does she live? If you’re not making plans to meet up any time soon, I’d cut it off. Don’t waste your time, or hers.
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